Noisy Sex May Mean She's Not Enjoying It

“Yes. Yes. Yes!” “More. Uh huh. More.” “Right there, baby.”

Do these sound familiar? They aren’t just lovemaking sounds. They are what fancy sex researchers like to call Copulatory Vocalizations.

According a recent study, women use these sounds very strategically during various love making activities.

But let’s discuss some background first… Humans ain’t the only ones to make these love noises. Many primates make these sounds but here’s the catch. It’s usually just the female primate who makes these sounds.

And why does she make these sounds? Well for a number of reasons that stem from the main purpose of communicating to others nearby that sexual activity is taking place. Apparently most animals don’t have a designated smoosh room.

Some other reasons:

  • strengthen the bond between the pair
  • incite male-male competition (maybe you have a male roommate who you like to be noisy for?)
  • increase chances of the female mating with another dominant male
  • and/or simply to mate with additional males.

But back to those noisy human females. In this particular study, 71 women recruited from the community (aged 18-48, average age 21yrs) were surveyed about their various orgasm tendencies….such as:

  • Which methods lead to orgasm (masturbation alone or by partner, oral sex, manual stimulation during intercourse, manual stimulation from partner, penetration itself)
  • when orgasm achieved (during foreplay, intercourse before partner orgasms/same time/after partner orgasms, during afterplay)
  • the sounds made: silence, moan/groan, scream/shriek/squeal, words (partner’s name, “yes”), instructional commands (“more”)
  • when sounds made (when they knew they were not going to orgasm, to speed things up, to encourage partner’s climax, to terminate intercourse)

And what do these women say? Well, orgasm is most likely to occur during self-manipulation, manipulation by partner, oral sex by male partner, and least often by vaginal penetration.

This can’t really be new information any more, can it? But, sounds peak right before male ejaculation even though that is the least likely time (during vaginal penetration) that orgasm is likely to happen for women.

  • She says: “Yeah, baby. Yeah, baby.” She means: Damnit. Guess I’m not orgasming again tonight.
  • Well 66% (remember the sample was only 71 women) reported making sounds to speed up their partner’s ejaculation due to discomfort/pain, boredom and fatigue. I think copulatory vocalizations are positively correlated with jack hammering.
  • 80% of women make noises when they know they aren’t going to orgasm.
  • 87% use these sounds to boost their partner’s self-esteem and 92% believe that they do.

So moral of the story: Use instructional copulatory vocalizations (think more, harder, to the left, don’t stop) to tell a partner what he/she/they can do to tell you achieve the big O. Or help yourself. Just a thought.

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Jocelyn Wentland

Jocelyn Wentland is a Sex Researcher, PhD student at the University of Ottawa. You will find her blogs are sexual, risqué (she likes to push the envelope), potentially offending, fun, but most of all, real. Read more of Jocelyn's blog at Sex Research and The Follow her on Twitter and Facebook.

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